I got one message from my friend, this e-world of e-commerce, e-mail, e-ticket, e-cards don't forget e-shwar!! He is the one who gives you e-very thing! In that list he has left another one, which exists from the beginning... e-go!
If you consult the psychologists or psychiatrists, they would agree with my view that most of the problems in the life were created by that three letter word.
When it starts and how that too at what age... Nobody knows. in one of the petty fights between my son and daughter, he unintentionally hit her hand. Immediately my daughter gave it back. Then the war of words started flowing; as usual the referee was called (who else other than me!) and a minute's thought I gave the judgment. As the action was not preplanned, each one has to tender apology to another. But my son agreed to say sorry but my daughter was not. Then he told if she is having such a ego why I should give up; I will not say the word. It's a reasonable argument. My daughter replied, as he hit first, she had to give it back. What is the need of apology! A valid reply! Then I had to use law and order rules to disperse their dispute! (That's different story!)
In another scenario, one young couple was watching television. Wife told something to her husband, he didn't listen to what she said (as usual!). He was busy in watching an important announcement in the television. After that she turned to his wife and asked whether she had told anything. No reply from her. Time rolled by. No conversations between them. He thought nothing important, so she was not speaking anything. She thought he was not interested in her and so the silence. See how the ego spreads like a mushroom. Finally it ended in a divorce!!
The ego starts like a small plant on a rock. Slowly it forms cracks in it and finally makes it into two pieces. A lull period develops between two good friends. After a gap that creates the opinion in each others minds that “let the other one shall contact.. Why should I?”. Slowly the love becomes hate. In due course two good friends will become great enemies for a silly reason! Who has to be blamed? Is it because of their ego?
I asked one of my friends about this. His views are like this: ego is just a reflection of self-pride. That's essential for every one. It enhances your own belief. Or you can say, it's a byproduct of self-esteem. If used in a positive way, it can create wonders. The vice versa is also true. If it's not used properly, it can be destructive too. Then my question was, is it necessary to have such a thing. Mere self-confidence is not essential to do wonders? Is it not a fuel for superiority complex? There is a thin line separates self-confidence and pride. “I can do it!” – Self-confidence! “I can only do it; nobody can!” this is pride! No answer for my questions from him. Now it's your turn. How can say go to a non-existent entity? In my view, nothing like ego exists. It's a state-of-mind. It differs from individual to individual. So generalizing such feeling with an irrelevant term “ego” will not serve the purpose. Rather it complicates it.
My question is whether such a thing exists in our minds? If so where..? If every body has it, why it affects few of us; not all. Is it a nature's gift or artificial creature? If we go further is it a faux pas or excuse created by us to escape?
What's ur opinion pals?
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