Wednesday, September 29, 2010

MangoMan...( आम आदमी ) VIEW ON CWG 2010.........MY PRIDE, MY GAMES

"I Strongly Support the Commonwealth Games..& I want it to be a great success"


The most debatable topic of the season..the headline maker for months..the origin of controversies..the suspicion of some of the biggest scandals..the money maker..COMMONWEALTH GAMES 2010,With just 7 days left,I would want to know your take at the games..


My statement : I completely defend the Games for next 20 days, till they are over..the glitches and other matters can be resolved after the games are successfully done with. Its a matter of national pride for me..the least i can do at this moment is, NOT CRITICIZE..Also, extend a helping hand to anyone and everyone who needs it!!..be a part of this celebration..its your Delhi, your Country,and your Games..:):)



Saturday, September 25, 2010

Indian Classical - Kathak


Art, Music and Dance play an important role in all traditions and cultures. The expressions are different but the goal is usually to stimulate the connectedness, communion and spiritual experience of a group or an individual. Spiritual Art, Music and Dance communicates directly to the Soul and affect us on a subtle and often unconscious level. There is a saying that "one image is more than thousand words? and that is also the case for music and dance. It can be said that music is the pleasure of harmony and Dance is the pleasure of feeling alive.
One of the seven classial dance in India is Kathak. Kathaks unique history has made it very different from other traditional dance forms, although it still retains the same roots. Presently, this classical dance is characterized by a combination of the temple and court forms, inclusive of both the devotion and romantic form that has shaped it through the years.



Wednesday, September 22, 2010

A visit to Sourthen India.....Nandi bull,Mahabalipurami........


The “Bull Temple” is found in Bangalore the resources of Karnataka. The nandi is gratefull as Shiva’s grow in this temple on the similar stage as the Vishvanath Temple. It is also called “Nandi temple”.The temple has a huge bull (4.6 metres tall), fixed out of a single boulder. It is a Sculptural masterpiece. In Kannada, Basava means bull, which gives the name Basayanagudi to the area. The temple has a giant bull (4.6 metres tall), impressed out of a single stone. It is a sculptural masterpiece.It faces the shiva temple. A statue of Nandi the bull of Shiva is inside flanked at the support with statues of God Surya and diety Candra on their chariots drawn by horses. Non Hindus are not permitted in the holy placeThe temple is active always with some ceremony or additional going on. On weekends there are musicians who are performing at the temple.


Sunday, September 19, 2010

If you're Thinking of having an Affair, Think again...

Many persons turn to an affair as a means of coping with a poor marriage. There are websites available to help married persons meet other married persons for such purposes. These websites cite statistics suggesting that since affairs occur in such great numbers, the behavior is thus normal and therefore acceptable.

Well, that's just evidence of 'stinking thinking', or as psychologists would say, cognitive distortions. (A cognitive distortion is the lie we tell ourselves to convince ourselves that something is OK when clearly it is not.)



Saturday, September 18, 2010

How to Use, When to Use Your Body Language......Important..

Body language is an important part of communication which can constitute 50% or more of what we are communicating. If you wish to communicate well, then it makes sense to understand how you can (and cannot) use your body to say what you mean.
Message clusters
Body language comes in clusters of signals and postures, depending on the internal emotions and mental states.  Recognizing a whole cluster is thus far more reliable than trying to interpret individual elements.



Friday, September 17, 2010

At theAge @ 50 u Look @25....................

IT'S ALL very well to talk about aging " gracefully" but let's face it, there's no such thing. Anyone who is middle aged knows how typical it is to try and shrug off the changes that force us to pace ourselves. There's a kind of slowing down - we tire more easily; start gaining weight just eating the same meals we've always eaten and get high on two drinks instead of the three it used to take five years ago.

Aging is essentially a process in which your cells lose their resilience and their ability to repair damage. This may be so dramatic that looking in the mirror at our sagging muscles, crinkling skin and graying hair may send shock waves down our spines! But at least one is mentally prepared for these changes, as they are an inevitable sign of aging.




Wednesday, September 15, 2010

Truth is Truth What I See I Write, But Yet Dreaming Better ! INDIA.


Ramnagar Fort, Varanasi
I am seeing it with my eyes from last 35 yrs, I wish can change. I   salute the National Flag as you do. I cheer the country's victory as you do. But, for the reasons given,I love this country the most. Here, I CAN pit and throw garbage anywhere. Smoke and relieve wherever I want to Enjoy loud music and create nuisance to others. Arrange a procession and chaos on the main road. Hold ceremonies by blocking streets and lanes. Bribe astrologers and priests to break or fix matrimony. Make money out of natural calamities. Pilfer electricity and water. Create artificial scarcity. Pollute environment and human being as well. Chat and Drive as I like, and park as I wish. Sherk form the duties and responsibilities. Hold someone accountable for my misadventure. Grease the palm of authorities for my gain. Influence a deal for a kickback. Buy or sell human beings or their organs. Encroach upon public property.


When Beauty Mix With Chemical Reaction Its alyways React.

Oh, my god u r looking so aged, when a women hear this question its comes to her mind, is it I am looking so old, she run as fast as to see her image in mirror after watching she will put a question in her mind how it could be removed from her face then she will go to cosmetic shop and will buy a product of higher range without seeing her pocket she will be ready to even pay for it u know why, because a women always wanna look as younger as she can.
The beauty of Women lies in how beautiful they make themselves up. This truth has been widely exploited by the business houses. No wonder the largest sale of beauty products are aimed at women. They are raking up billions of dollars. What is soothing news for the business is hurting for the woman's health. In the latest revelation the researchers break he news that over 500 chemicals are used in making up the beauty  Products used by women are around the world. 



Monday, September 13, 2010

What Is The Use If U Never Know the Meaning of giving a Thirsty Person any Water...


If you never gave a thirsty person any water, Then what is the point in giving him nectar granting immortality after wards? If you never picked up a falling person, Then what is the point in shedding tears after wards?
I went to the temple and I prayed to god;Whilst I was praying I suddenly had a thought,I never did a selfless service for my mother and father; Then what is the point in only praying to god?If you never gave a thirsty person any water; Then, what is the point in giving him nectar, granting immortality after wards?
I went to a religious gathering to learn about God and I listened to the saint's teachings,Whilst I was listening to the saint's teachings I suddenly had a thought:Even though I have been given birth as a human, I have never shown any mercy/kindness,Then what is the point in being called a human?
If you never gave a thirsty person any water, Then what is the point in giving him nectar granting immortality after wards? I gave donations and I did my prayers and I did my penance, Whilst I was making the donations I suddenly had a thought, I never gave food to a hungry person, Then what is the point in donating thousands? If you never gave a thirsty person any water, Then what is the point in giving him nectar granting immortality after wards?
I went to bathe in the sacred river Ganges in Haridwar, Kasi;Whilst I was bathing in the sacred river Ganges I suddenly had a thought: I have washed my body but I haven't washed my soul; then what is the point in bathing in this sacred river Ganges? If you never gave a thirsty person any water, Then what is the point in giving him nectar granting immortality after wards?
I have read all the holy texts like the Vedas and the Shashtras, Whilst reading the Shashtras I suddenly had a thought: I have never shared my knowledge with anyone; then what is the point in being called wise/intelligent? If you never gave a thirsty person any water, Then what is the point in giving him nectar granting immortality after wards?

All your places of worship are at the feet of your respected parents,Come, Come that is the place to achieve liberation and enlightenment, If you never did a selfless service for your father and mother, Then what is the point in going on pilgrimages? If you never gave a thirsty person any water; Then what is the point in giving him nectar granting immortality after wards If you never picked up a falling person; Then what is the point in shedding tears after wards?...

Sunday, September 12, 2010

If You will Respect other Religion your own Religion will be Respected.

ARE U HINDU, MUSLIM OR CHRISTIAN WHO R U ?


Educate yourself. Besides sacred texts, there are a myriad of books and movies available that delve into other religions. Learn about the major world religions, their belief systems and values, and also learn about lesser known religions. Notice the differences, but pay closer attention to the similarities, most religions will have similar common themes.Explore other religions. Ask your friends of other faiths if you can attend a worship service with them, or go to a different church, mosque, or synagogue. It's a great way to reach out to a larger part of your community.


Maintain an attitude of respect. Look for similarities not differences. Set aside the notion that your religion is "right" and other religions are automatically "wrong" even if it is a tenement of your faith. This means suspending judgment and being diplomatic to show respect for people of other religions. Treat the people you encounter as you would want to be treated if someone of another faith was attending a service at your church.


Ask questions in a respectful and polite manner to members of other religions. You will find more common ground than you might expect. No matter what, we're all human beings and are hoping and wishing and working for the same basic things in this life. Who knows, you may walk away from the conversation with a new perspective or a deeper commitment to your own faith.

SOMETIME WE FIGHT FOR OUR OWN RELIGION
BUT WE REALLY DON'T KNOW GOD KNOWS ONLY ONE RELIGION AND THAT IS HUMANITY!

Saturday, September 11, 2010

Teej is the day when Married women do 24-hour nirjala fasting see from my vision.

Teej is celebrated just before the first day of Ganesh Chaturthi. Married women do 24-hour nirjala fasting (without water or fruit) for the wellness of their spouse and their married lifeTeej is an unique festival for Hindu women. It takes place in August or early September.It celebrates the arrival of monsoon after a season of oppressive heat.
"Teej" is a small red insect that comes out of the soil during rains. It is celebrated for marital bliss, well-being of spouse and children and purification of own body and soul.The festival is a three-day-long celebration that combines sumptuous feasts as well as rigid fasting. North Indian women of Rajashtan, Uttar Pradesh, Haryana, Punjab and Bihar, are mainly celebrates this festival.In this Festival Women worship of Goddess Parvati with Lort Shiva for happy and long marriage life. During Teej, swing ropes on the courtyards decorated with flowers are a common sight. Newly married girls return to their parent’s home, receiving clothes from their parents. In this occasion rural women buy new bangles, bindis bead-necklaces and having mouth-watering dishes.Rituals of Teej: Women undergo fasts; sing folk songs and dance in the name of Goddess Parvati. It is a belief that unmarried women fasting will luckily find a suitable husband. Fasting married women will also find their husband more faithful and bonds of love strengthened.

History of Teej: Teej Festival symbolized reunion of Lord Shiva and Goddess Parvati. Teej teaches us the sacrifice of wife to win the heart of husband.It is said that Parvati reborn and went through stringent fasting for 108 long years to prove her dedication, devotion and unconditional love towards Lord Shiva. Finally, 108 years of long sacrifice paid off and Lord Shiva accepted her as his wife. Till today, the festival of Teej is celebrated to honor the devotion of Goddess Parvati – popularly known as TEEJ MATA. On this day, both married and unmarried women seek her blessings for their happy marital life. Teej Amongst the Baniya Community: Teej is an important festival amongst the baniya and marwari community. In this area women are also given bangles and bindis. Swings are also put on trees for the entertainment of young girls. Unlike the other states and communities amongst the baniyas and marwaris, the festival is meant as a celebration for women especially young girls. Girls of the house are given new clothes. A special and fun lunch is organized by the women of the house for the women in the house. It is the traditional women's day of the community. It is customary for mothers-in-law to give the newly married daughter-in-law a piece of jewellery on her first teej after marriage.

Traditionally daughters-in-law would go to their mothers house for teej and come back after Rakhi, in this way they would spend about 10 days of the summer with their parents. It is customary that when a daughter goes to her parents house she takes with her sweet and salty savouries with her.Daughters spend teej with their parents and after they come back they spend Buddhi Teej which is teej for the daughters-in-law in their marital home. Buddhi Teej normally falls within a week after Rakhi.Today in Delhi there are numerous suits and sari exhibitions before Teej for women to buy clothing for the festival.

THE STORY BEHIND TEEJ...Once upon a monsoon, in a land called Bimala Nagari, King Chandraprabha set out for a hunt in a nearby forest. While he was roaming the woods, he chanced upon a group of apsaras engaged in an intense ritual of prayer and fasting for the goddess Parvati. They tied a sacred thread around the king's wrist, after which he returned home. On seeing the thread, the king's favourite wife Vishalakshi seethed with anger and jealousy. She snatched off a bit of the thread and threw it on a dead tree. Instantly, the tree bloomed to life. The king's second wife, Sri Mahadevi, took some of the thread from her husband's wrist and placed it on herself and thenceforth she became the centre of the king's attentions. Vishalakshi, banished to the forest, prayed to Swarna Gauri or Parvati and in so doing she won back the goodwill of the king and she returned to the palace, her life and love restored.
According to the Skandapurana and the Bhavishyapurana, this incident is the origin of Teej, the festival that falls on the third day of the new moon in the month of Shravan. Women pray to Parvati to seek blessings of marital bliss. In the Bhavishyapurana, Krishna tells his sister Subhadra not to consider herself exempt from the Swarna Gauri Vrata just because her brother is a god and her husband, the mighty Arjun. With her perfect marriage, Parvati is seen as a symbol of feminine power. Parvati takes charge of finding a husband for herself. She embarks on a severe tapasya to counter the one Shiva has undertaken. Her perseverance is rewarded when the normally unyielding and stoic Shiva expresses his willingness to marry her.

Parents are not a burden....Love Them from your Heart not as a Responsibilities.


An 75 year old women was sitting on the sofa in her house along with her 45 years old highly educated son. Suddenly a crow perched on their window.

The Mother asked her Son, "What is this?"

The Son replied "It is a crow".

After a few minutes, the Mother asked her Son the 2nd time, "What is this?"
The Son said "Mother, I have just now told you "It's a crow".

After a little while, the old Mother again asked her Son the 3rd time,

What is this?"

At this time some expression of irritation was felt in the Son's tone when he said to his Mother with a rebuff. "It's a crow, a crow".

A little after, the Mother again asked her Son the 4th time, "What is this?"

This time the Son shouted at her Mother, "Why do you keep asking me the same question again and again, although I have told you so many times 'IT IS A CROW'. Are you not able to understand this?"
my writing of this blog will be worth if at least one person  will take the oath, Say a prayer to God, "I will serve my old parents in the BEST way. I will say all good and kind words to my dear parents, no matter how they behave.

A little later the Mother went to her room and came back with an old tattered diary, which she had maintained since her Son was born. On opening a page, she asked her Son to read that page. When the son read it, the following words were written in the diary :
"Today my little son aged three was sitting with me on the sofa, when a crow was sitting on the window. My Son asked me 23 times what it was, and I replied to him all 23 times that it was a Crow. I hugged him lovingly each time h e asked me the same question again and again for 23 times. I did not at all feel irritated I rather felt affection for my innocent child".


While the little child asked him 23 times "What is this", the Mother had felt no irritation in replying to the same question all 23 times and when today the Mother asked her Son the same question just 4 times, the Son felt irritated and annoyed.

So..

If your parents attain old age, do not repulse them or look at them as a burden, but speak to them a gracious word, be cool, obedient, humble and kind to them. Be considerate to your parents.From today say this aloud, "I want to see my parents happy forever. They have cared for me ever since I was a little child. They have always showered their selfless love on me.

They crossed all mountains and valleys without seeing the storm and heat to make me a person presentable in the society today".

Friday, September 10, 2010

Do U Have Your Tounge to Speak Clear Communication...Check it Out

A Checklist for Clear Communication

Think of how often you communicate with people during your day. You write emails, facilitate meetings, participate in conference calls, create reports, devise presentations, debate with your colleagues... the list goes on. We can spend almost our entire day communicating. So, how can we provide a huge boost to our productivity? We can make sure that we communicate in the clearest, most effective way possible.
This is why we need to know about the 7 Cs of Communication. The 7 Cs provide a checklist for making sure that your thinking of how often you communicate with people during your day. You write emails, facilitate meetings, participate in conference calls, create reports, devise presentations, debate with your colleagues... the list goes on.

We can spend almost our entire day communicating. So, how can we provide a huge boost to our productivity? We can make sure that we communicate in the clearest, most effective way possible.This is why we need to know about the 7 Cs of Communication. The 7 Cs provide a checklist for making sure that your meetings, emails, conference calls, reports and presentations are well constructed and clear - so your audience gets your message.Messages must always be CLEAR.
According to the 7 Cs, communication needs to be:

In this article, we look at each of the 7 Cs of Communication, and we'll illustrate each element with both good and bad examples.

1. Clear -When writing or speaking to someone, be clear about your goal or message. What is your purpose in communicating with this person? If you're not sure, then your audience won't be sure either.To be clear, try to minimize the number of ideas in each sentence. Make sure that it's easy for your reader to understand your meaning. People shouldn't have to "read between the lines" to understand what you're trying to say.

Bad Example
Hi Nirved,
I wanted to write you a quick note about Yogo, who's working in your department. He's a great asset, and I'd like to talk to you more about him when you have time.
Best,
Skip

What is this email about? Well, we're not sure. First, if there are multipleYogo in Nirved department, Nirved won't know who Skip is talking about.
Next, what is yogo doing, specifically, that's so great? We don't know that either. It's so vague that Nirved will definitely have to write back for more information.
Last, what is the purpose of this email? Does Skip simply want to have an idle chat about Yogo, or is there some more specific goal here? There's no sense of purpose to this message, so it's quite confusing.

Good Example

Let's see how we could change this email to make it clear.
Hi Nirved,
I wanted to write you a quick note about Yogo jaiswal, who's working in your department. In recent weeks, he's helped the IT department through several pressing deadlines on his own time.
We've got a tough upgrade project due to run over the next three weeks, and his knowledge and skills would prove invaluable. Could we please have his help with this work?
I'd appreciate speaking with you about this. When is it best to call you to discuss this further?

Best wishes,
Skip
This second message is much clearer, because the reader has the information he needs to take action.

2. Concise -When you're concise in your communication, you stick to the point and keep it brief. Your audience doesn't want to read six sentences when you could communicate your message in three.
Are there any adjectives or "filler words" that you can delete? You can often eliminate words like "for instance," "you see," "definitely," "kind of," "literally," "basically," or "I mean."
Are there any unnecessary sentences?
Have you repeated the point several times, in different ways?
Bad Example
Hi Mahi,
I wanted to touch base with you about the email marketing campaign we kind of sketched out last Thursday. I really think that our target market is definitely going to want to see the company's philanthropic efforts. I think that could make a big impact, and it would stay in their minds longer than a sales pitch.
For instance, if we talk about the company's efforts to become sustainable, as well as the charity work we're doing in local schools, then the people that we want to attract are going to remember our message longer. The impact will just be greater.

What do you think?

Bharti

This email is too long! There's repetition, and there's plenty of "filler" taking up space.
Good Example
Watch what happens when we're concise and take out the filler words:
Hi Mahi,
I wanted to quickly discuss the email marketing campaign that we analyzed last Thursday. Our target market will want to know about the company's philanthropic efforts, especially our goals to become sustainable and help local schools.
This would make a far greater impact, and it would stay in their minds longer than a traditional sales pitch.

What do you think?

Bharti

3. Concrete - When your message is concrete, then your audience has a clear picture of what you're telling them. There are details (but not too many!) and vivid facts, and there's laserlike focus.

Bad Example

Consider this advertising copy:
The Lunchbox Wizard will save you time every day. A statement like this probably won't sell many of these products. There's no passion, no vivid detail, nothing that creates emotion, and nothing that tells people in the audience why they should care. This message isn't concrete enough to make a difference.
Good Example
How much time do you spend every day packing your kids' lunches? No more! Just take a complete Lunchbox Wizard from your refrigerator each day to give your kids a healthy lunch AND have more time to play or read with them!
This copy is better because there are vivid images. The audience can picture spending quality time with their kids - and what parent could argue with that? And mentioning that the product is stored in the refrigerator explains how the idea is practical. The message has come alive through these details.


Thursday, September 09, 2010

when do women tell lie....to a men

What lies do women tell men? It happens most of the time ,observe it u may see the truth.
Nothing's wrong, I'm fine
This is the most popular lie told by women. Like we didn't know. On a bad day I hear it a couple of times before breakfast.
And of course, most men react to its utterance as if confronted by zombies, because what it actually means is: "I am not fine. But I intend to let you stew for a while before starting a blazing row just before your parents turn up."

It wasn't expensive
The literal interpretation of this porky is, of course, "it was very expensive indeed". Women use it because they like to shop and, however much they bang on about the joys of a bargain, they really like to shop in top-end stores.
But as lies go, it's not such a bad one. At least she's bothering to lie. A worse indication of the state of your relationship would be a brazen disregard for the shopping addiction that will eventually cost you your credit rating, your house and your sanity.

I'm on my way
If she rings or texts to tell you that she is 'on her way', the only course of action is to assume she’ll be a while.
Because there is every chance she is not on her way. She might be trying on an outfit. She might be taking it off again. She might be trying on the outfit she first tried on 20 minutes ago. Whatever it is, she is categorically not 'on her way'.

That was the best sex ever!
There are two possibilities here. The first is that it really was the best sex ever and she isn't lying at all. More likely, it's a big fat fib designed to massage your ego, salvage a dying relationship, or tempt you reluctantly into further late night shenanigans.
And that's not a good sign. She shouldn't have to lie to keep you interested. If you realistically conclude that there is no way on God's good earth that it was the best sex ever, proceed with caution.

My phone ran out of credit/battery/signal
If repeated regularly, this classic can mean any number of things, none of them good. Maybe you're in the doghouse. Maybe she's getting bored with you. Maybe she's having an amorous liaison with your best friend.
OK, the last one is probably a little over the top. But then again, maybe not. There's some reason she doesn't want to talk to you, after all.

It's not you, it's me
This roughly translates as, "it's not me, it's you".


I haven't touched it You've been looking for something for ages, so you ask her if she's seen it. "I haven't touched it!" she cries, somewhat defensively. She looks down at her magazine and refuses to look you in the eye.
Which almost certainly means that she did see it, about three seconds before she chucked it in the bin. That's even more likely if the 'it' in question is a) your lucky pants, b) something given to you by an ex-girlfriend or c) Playboy. 
 
I've got a headache
Before the 1990s, "I've got a headache" was sitcom shorthand for "stop pestering me for sex". Female leads were contractually obliged to utter it at least twice an episode.
Of course, no self-respecting woman would use that hoary old line in the 21st century. Instead they use, "I've got an STD", or "I've got post traumatic stress syndrome (after the last time)", or even, "I absolutely hate having sex with you".

The last one is obviously a lie.
It's what I've always wanted
So you carefully consider her personality, interests and tastes, fight through the Christmas crowds and come away with a present you know she'll love. And of course she hates it.
There's a chance it's not a lie and she really does love it, but you'll get an inkling of the truth on Boxing Day when she asks if you kept the receipt, "just in case".

I don't fancy anyone else!
Guys should probably accept that, just as you fancy other women, your partners fancy other men. That doesn't mean your own wife or girlfriend will do anything about it, or that she fancies anyone more than you, or that she'd rather be with someone else. It just means that, occasionally, she quite likes the look of another bloke
still i say being a women i don't tell lie.....hahahahahaha .

Wednesday, September 08, 2010

Women Always Want His Men To Wear.....What ?

It’s the billion-dollar question when it comes to men’s fashion. What do women really - really - want us to wear? And it's a question that needs to be asked because (to generalize just a tiny bit) women are first-class liars and first-rate diplomats.

For the sake of domestic harmony or a stress-free office they'll pretend to like all sorts of things they secretly detest, whether that's your endless supply of knock-knock jokes or your mystifying attachment to comedy cuff links.Does it matter? Well, yes, because though we can kid ourselves otherwise, the fact is that at least part of the reason we buy nice clothes is to impress girls, whether that means the female population generally, or just one particular member of it.So, for the sake of an open dialogue between the sexes, Ask real women how they really wanted to see their men dress. And more controversially, how they most certainly didn't. You may want to look away now.
If you're 35, don't dress 19. "Men with beer bellies and graying hair can't get away with super-skinny jeans,"  summing up the frustrations of a legion of women.
"I don't want my boyfriend to dress like an old man. But I certainly don't want him to dress like an idiot"."In fact, skinny jeans were a particular bugbear.  "skinny jeans are hot if you've got the right bod but otherwise should be avoided at all costs."

It's fair to say that many of us do not have the 'right body' for skinny jeans. At the same time, all our correspondents wanted their men to dress stylishly, whatever their age. Crisp, timeless fashions were in. Refusing to make an effort was most definitely out.

For husbands and boyfriends who have hit 35 (or 30, or 40) and given up on fashion the message is clear. Nobody expects you to dress like a model, but your women do expect you to take some pride in your appearance.



Tuesday, September 07, 2010

We Still Hate The Boss as we know Boss Is Always Right


Everyone dislikes their boss at some point. But if it’s a perpetual state of affairs, that’s a serious problem. It could make your working day hell and potentially affect your overall job performance.Studies have shown that discord between an employee and manager is one of the major reasons why people leave jobs. But running away from your job should only be a last resort since you could easily find another bad boss at your next job.Bad bosses come in many flavors, and here are some ways in which you can deal with them. Warning: Many involve a degree of self-control and discipline that you probably won’t feel if you detest your supervisor but are worth giving a shot.Are you not doing your work up to the required standards? Change that. Does your personality not match with your boss’s? Overcome your personal feelings and focus on your professional relationship with the boss.However, if the boss is perceived as bad for your peers as well–it really isn’t you, it’s him!–try some of the steps mentioned below. A bad manager is not necessarily a bad person. Often, the problem is that managers don’t have any training or skills to manage people. Or they may be insecure, or they might just be under pressure from their bosses to deliver tough targets. Understanding your boss’s perspective can enable you to figure out steps to tackle the situation. For instance, do what it takes to help the boss achieve his or her goals; you will be appreciated more. “That empathy towards trying to understand your manager…has helped people.


If your boss is not doing his job well, and is not interested in improving either, that could reflect badly on your team’s results and on you. Try taking some more responsibility, even if means doing tasks that don’t fall strictly under your job profile. If your work can help raise your team’s delivery rate, you’ll benefit ultimately. Think of this as an opportunity to get more experience than you normally could if you were working under a boss who micro-manages. When possible, you could informally bring up your achievements before other superiors or human-resource managers.

What You Have In Your Hand, Just Simple Lines........!


What u have in your hands, it will be money, time, mood, job what else, No but just a simple lines ..these lines which has a luck, faith, unseen future, prediction, so why not to have faith on these lines which says, Be thankful for what you have.. Be creative. Be innovative. Think differently and positively. When life gives you a 100 reasons to cry, show life that you have 1000 reasons to smile Face your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear. Keep the faith and drop the fear. The most beautiful thing is to see a person smiling And even more beautiful is, knowing that you are the reason behind it!!! Enjoy your day with a heart of gratitude.
No point using limited life to chase unlimited money, No point earning so much money you cannot live to spend it. money is not yours until you spend it. When you are young, you use your health to chase your wealth;when you are old, you use your wealth to buy back your health. Difference is that, it is too late. How happy a man is, is not how much he has but how little he needs. No point working so hard to provide for the people you have no time to spend with Remember this, We come to this world with nothing, we leave this world with nothing..! 



When we are able to merge the negativity of others, and look at the positive aspect in them instead, we can automatically experience being light and positive within.  Also we find others relating to us with their positivity. We are able to be successful in our relationship with others, however difficult the personality traits of the other person may be.

Your mindset is the key!  Attitudes, perceptions, habits & beliefs create your mindset.  It shapes the way you think, feel & act. Is your mindset limiting or empowering you?So enjoy your life what u have now, you will be always happy ...have a great day.

Monday, September 06, 2010

Stop Abortion Pro Choice ? DO YOU THINK THESE BABIES CHOSE TO DIE?

This Is Dedicated To The Memory Of All The Aborted Babies Throughout The World. Please pass this on to as many people ...
I am in Heaven now... I so wanted to be your little girl. I don't quite understand what has happened. I was so excited when I began realizing my existence. I was in a dark, yet comfortable place. I saw I had fingers and toes. I was pretty far along in my developing, yet not near ready to leave my surroundings. I spent most of my time thinking or sleeping. Even from my earliest days, I felt a special bonding between you and me. Sometimes I heard you crying and I cried with you. Sometimes you would yell or scream, then cry. I heard Daddy yelling back. I was sad, and hoped you would be better soon. I wondered why you cried so much. One day you cried almost all of the day. I hurt for you. I couldn't imagine why you were so unhappy. That same day, the most horrible thing happened. A very mean monster came into that warm, comfortable place I was in. I was so scared, I began screaming, but you never once tried to help me. Maybe you never heard me. The monster got closer and closer as I was screaming and screaming, "Mommy, Mommy, help me please; Mommy, help me." Complete terror is all I felt. I screamed and screamed until I thought I couldn't anymore. Then the monster started ripping my arms off. It hurt so bad; the pain I can never explain. It didn't stop. Oh, how I begged it to stop. I screamed in horror as it ripped my leg off.

Though I was in such complete pain, I was dying. I knew I would never see your face or hear you say how much you love me. I wanted to make all your tears go away. I had so many plans to make you happy. Now I couldn't; all my dreams were shattered. Though I was in utter pain and horror, I felt the pain of my heart breaking, above all. I wanted more than anything to be your daughter. No use now, for I was dying a painful death. I could only imagine the terrible things that they had done to you. I wanted to tell you that I love you before I was gone, but I didn't know the words you could understand.

And soon, I no longer had the breath to say them; I was dead. I felt myself rising. I was being carried by a huge angel into a big beautiful place. I was still crying, but the physical pain was gone. The angel took me away to a wonderful place... Then I was happy. I asked the angel what was the thing was that killed me. He answered, "Abortion". I am sorry, for I know how it feels." I don't know what abortion is; I guess that's the name of the monster. I'm writing to say that I love you and to tell you how much I wanted to be your little girl. I tried very hard to live. I wanted to live. I had the will, but I couldn't; the monster was too powerful. It sucked my arms and legs off and finally got all of me. It was impossible to live. I just wanted you to know I tried to stay with you. I didn't want to die. Also, Mommy, please watch out for that abortion monster. Mommy, I love you and I would hate for you to go through the kind of pain I did. Please be careful. I still feel in India 50% of people who are being educated but doing the same crime, why not to stop these monster, why not to indulge our selves to save a girl child......remember if the women will be not there what will happen to men. . .leave a comment below.

Sunday, September 05, 2010

The Way To Langar Is On Today After 15 Years Also

When we reached  Delhi  our sir took all of us to a Gurudwara near chandni chowk but the question was coming on my mind why he is taking all of us there, as there was no such location on tour, later I came to know that there was free accommodation and free meals arrangement in Gurudwara, that's why he was taking us there, I was annoyed being paid full money for hotel then also he is taking us to such a place as up to that time I was never visited to any of Gurudwara, being angry mood I followed all my mates after reaching there , I found nothing was better then this place. All the boys were thrown to another place as they were not allowed to shave. For a moment, if one pushes the religious fact aside, it is no ordinary feat to serve a meal to thousands of people in a day and that too round-the-clock. Forty to fifty thousand people, on an average, partakes of langar every day at seeshganj chadni chowk. "On Sundays, festival days and Masya, the number exceeds 1 lakh” Serving such a huge gathering is not an easy task. But, the devotion and selfless service of the sewadars makes the job simple. "More than  300 permanent sewadars who work at the langar. They knead dough, cook food, serve people and perform a number of other jobs. Also, there are a good number of volunteers, both men and women, who work in kitchen and langar hall. They also wash and wipe the utensils. "In the washing hall they have four sewadars to supervise the work," Of course, an elaborate arrangement is in place to cook and serve food at such a large scale.
The langar is prepared in kitchens, which have 11 hot plates (tawi), several burners, machines for sieving and kneading dough and several other utensils. At one tawi, 15 people work at a time. It is a chain process - some make balls of dough, others roll rotis, a few put them on the tawi and rest cook and collect them.It is all done so meticulously that one is surprised to see that on one hot plate, in just two hours, over 20 kg of flour is used to make rotis. It is fine team of man and machine that makes it possible for the Gurudwara to provide 24-hour langar on all days.
Gurudwara Sis Ganj Sahib
At last I can say that my sir saved some money but shown me the real fact of sikh people serving for the mankind, hats off to those guys who never see the difference between a upper class and lower class....... THE WAY TO LANGAR IS ON TODAY AFTER 15 YRS ALSO.

Saturday, September 04, 2010

IS I AM HAPPY BEING MARRIED ?


The Secret of  My Happy Married Life

Once I was asked by YOU, "What is the secret behind your happy married life?"

I said, "You should share responsibilities with due love and Respect each other. Then absolutely there will be no problems."

You asked, "Can you explain?"

I said, "In my house, I take decisions on smaller  issues where as my husband decides on bigger issues. We do not interfere in each others decisions."

Still not convinced, YOU asked me "Give me some examples"

I said," all the issue  like, which car we should buy, how much amount to save, when to visit home town, which Sofa, air conditioner, refrigerator, monthly expenses, whether to keep a maid, where kids should get admitted, outing  or not etc are decided by my husband. I just agree to it"...but still i think if I disagree sometime what will happen,if I don't adjust with him what will happen, its not that I am scared of him but I think he is more intellectual then me in bringing my life to be happy.

YOU asked, "Then what is your role?"

I said, "My decisions are only for a smile  a while ...if he is caring for me all over then y not i, u know  what within a weak of my marriage I was on family way I was crying like anything but today I realize when I see my little daughter when she makes me smile all the way and help me in my work feel so relax, Its going to be more then 9 years now sometimes I still think is I am happy being married and Do you know one thing...

My husband NEVER, EVER objects to any of my decisions after reading it u may realize I never take a decision  so there is no question of objecting ...that called being married I am enjoying my married life  "…………!!!!!!

We Live In Deeds Not In Years

We cannot measure the length of the life of a person from the number of years he has lived, but from the series of good deeds he has done during his stay on the earth, all depends upon the noble and chaste deeds of a person. An oak tree stands for three hundred years, but at last it falls down as a useless block of wood. On the other hand, lily - the flower of a day only, delights everyone with it's beauty and sweet smell. Likewise those who do good deeds live in their acts of glory. Alexander, lived a short life. He dreamt a dream of conquering the whole world and very soon he was successful in fulfilling his dream. He was then known as "Alexander The Great". Sardar Bhagat Singh was hanged in the prime of life. But his noble deeds inspire the young men even today. It is rightly said. "One crowded hour of glorious life is worth an age, without a name". The glorious deeds of a man make his life magnificent. So we must live a noble life and make it perfect and virtuous.

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